... about Christmas greed

OK, this is really something that my mother did teach me, and my kids also taught me a lot. 

Whether you call it Christmas or "the Holiday Season" or anything else, it really has become the "Season of Greed". And this is really, really sad. 

We are told, by every advertisement, every store, every magazine, that this is the time when we must give lots and lots of presents. Presents that we can't afford. We go into debt, or, rather, we go further into debt at this time. We even feel forced to give gifts to people we don't like or don't know particularly well. 

It is one of my on-going jokes that there are certain things that people never want or buy for themselves, but are often given as gifts. Like "chia pets". 

 TV ads are crowded with those kinds of things, you know what they are. 

Where did this come from? No religion that I know of has, as part of their belief, the excessive giving of gifts at this time of year. 

Yes, this is a special time of year for children. For parents and grandparents, it is fun to plan and give children gifts at this time of year. 

With a few simple rules, there is nothing wrong with parents giving their children gifts. But the following rules should be followed:

1. Do not give more gifts than you can afford to give.
2. Do not give an excessive amount of gifts even if you can afford them.
3. Do not give gifts because they are advertised a lot. Give a child a gift they will enjoy and use.
4. Try to give gifts that encourage activity, creativity and thought.
5. Ensure that the children understand that this is a season of giving not a season of getting.

You accomplish the last rule by:

1. In the month before Christmas, have your children go through all their toys and select out those that are in good shape and they can/will donate to those less fortunate .
2. Have your children get rid of toys that are broken or no longer wanted.
3. Tell your children that they will get some gifts, but not everything they ask for.
4. Have your children participate in activities to help those less fortunate in other ways as well.
5. It is a great idea for children to give their parents gifts, so that they can be gift givers as well, but these should be gifts that the children make themselves. A drawing, flowers, perhaps a certificate promising to do extra chores or to not fight for a week.

For adults: Stop expecting gifts from other adults. Stop giving gifts to other adults. Tell everyone you know, "no gifts please". 

If you feel you must give adults gifts, make it a charitable donation in their name or give them something you made yourself. 

Ask any adults who feel they must give you a gift to do likewise. 

Insist: "No gifts please". 

 If there's someone you really care about, make that your gift. Send them a card, a letter, make a phone call or visit and tell them you love them. That's the gift that really counts. 

The "Holiday Season" has become a nightmare for many people all over the world.

The only people who like it that way are the gift shops and loan companies. They are the ones who promote the "Season of Greed". We don't have to listen to them anymore. 

 This time of year can become very enjoyable again if you simply give up the insanity of greed. Celebrate it quietly with your children, with minimal gifts and maximum enjoyment. It's sane, you'll like it.